We are all in the business of making memories for life. Whether we like, realize or are intentional about it, we are making memories.We are imprinting pictures in our minds and the minds of the people we are constantly interacting with.
We spend so much time interacting because we are social beings. As a matter of fact, if we are alive, we are interacting! However, if we are intentional enough, we can make our interactions a memory that evokes fondness, love, a smile or a warm feeling. All it takes is to think of the other person and serve.
3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.Philippians 2:3-4
Keeping this in mind and to let go off petite differences, love freely, to laugh heartily, to give freely, to to enjoy the moment, to let go of offences, to look at the moment and not how perfect the moment should be.To value the people in front of us more than the perfect image that we are trying to achieve.
Often times, we are so obsessed with the perfect that we forget to enjoy the messy present and the process. It is not the perfect cake, the perfect card perfect, the perfect cookie that will make a good memory but the process of how we make them and the person we are making it with.
Imagine making a cake with your child. Its a messy deal. Its more work for parent to work with a child than to work alone. The spills, the messy kitchen counter, the unplanned accidents are all a part of it. We often encounter this because the child is small, immature and requires to be trained. Training is hard work and it takes time and effort. However, if the parent is constantly going to be bothered by the mess then there is not going to be any learning or joy; only irritation and dejection. As a result we have created a sour memory when the original intention was to create a fun and rich experience.
The strive for perfection overshadows the joy of being with the person right in front of us.
The person in front of us matter more than our image of that perfect time that we have planned.
It is high time we let go of these perfect memories that we are trying to create and try and enjoy the person, who is right in front of us. Let us laugh more, complain less; Hug more, criticize less; Forgive more and compare less. May we make a difference one memory at a time!
Though it is easier said than done, let us try hard and make a difference!
Be the change you want to see-Mahathma Gandhi